Dating sexually inexperienced
You can’t assert yourself when you are worried about keeping other people from rejecting you!
Anyway, I think there is a lot of hope for you and I think your difficulty can be overcome if you are willing to become active and face your fears.
I have never had a girlfriend, or a relationship that has gone beyond two dates (usually my decision or something weird happens). I have never kissed a woman, or really put myself in a situation where I could kiss someone.
You never have to see them again, and there are like a billion other women you could date in their place.
Try asking yourself the question, “What do I want from this woman?
” again and again the next time you are in a dating situation and see if it doesn’t help.
You need to develop your own perspective – what you want – and avoid allowing the perspective of other people to colonize your head.
I’ve been talking to a lot of younger guys lately about women and dating.
Often I find myself being very jealous of these guys, even when they’re screwing up and making all the usual mistakes.Dating someone 18 and inexperienced like me is also quickly becoming, if not already, not possible. If I end up becoming a “40 Year Old Virgin” I will probably end my life because at that point I will have lost my window of opportunity to have a normal family life. There is a passive vibe to your letter, and an undercurrent of fear, and together these two things seem to be making it difficult for you to ask for dates and to build a relationship.That fear and that passivity will have to be addressed and looked square in the eye if you are to solve this problem of yours.You could go a long way towards solving your problem by 1) dating (internet dating is easiest), 2) working with a therapist on your anxiety, fear of rejection and tendency to view yourself through other’s eyes rather than your own.There is no substitute for practice, but having a supportive person to talk over fears with can help a lot.You also are saying here that you don’t know how to act around women.