If a woman keeps hearing from men that she’s “intimidating”, what is she supposed to do – besides start approaching men who have more self-confidence and fewer issues?

Being told “You’re too intimidating” is incredibly aggravating to women.

Think of your potential to intimidate as an imaginary dating bouncer that doesn’t let the riff-raff into your dating life.

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It’s happened to me three times where a guy will tell me that I’m pretty intimidating about a month or so into talking/dating. Some would say that he was intimidated, but what if he was just sticking to conventional dating norms and he just prefers being the high earner in a relationship because that’s what he thinks a man’s role should be?

I’m friendly and outgoing, short and small so it’s not my height that’s intimidating, good sense of humor, I read books, work out, have a close circle of friends, cook great food, even pretty spectacular in bed I’ve been told. I think a lot of people confuse being Now, let’s consider a hypothetical situation. The man, having been told how much income the woman earns, decides that he cannot date a woman who makes more than him and stops dating her.

If you’re a woman who lifts weights, if you’re tall, if you’re more educated, have agency, etc., you might intimidate some men.

That’s a good thing, because your status immediately helps you filter out undesirable people.

She’s well educated, with a rapier wit and a willingness to use it. And yet, Friday still remains the most lonely night of the week when she sees all of the happy, laughing couples making plans, having romantic dinners and enjoying the sex while she’s at home with Fringe on the DVR and a bottle of Malbec breathing in the kitchen. Well, whenever she’s interested in a guy – a guy who’s worth her time, because what’s the point of having standards if she’s not going to stick to ‘em?

She’s done it all; dating sites, meeting guys at cons, the comic store, chatting up friends from class and at work.

But is there such thing as if your too good looking, girls would be scared of you?

2 View All Next »I want to introduce you to someone. She’s geeky to her Joss-Whedon-loving core, a Whovian, Vertigo-reading, 3rd edition D&D (none of that 4th ed crap thank you very much) gamer with the con stories to prove it. While it’s true that many men will use it as a polite dodge to avoid saying “I’m not attracted to you”, when it comes up over and over again, it’s a sign that maybe there’s more to it.

So, all my girlfriends that are just friends say I'm really good looking and are surprised I've NEVER had a girlfriend before... and when I take off my shirt, I kinda look like one of those "Chipendales"...